The inspiration for this post comes from some great tweeting back and forth with @optimom http://opti-mom.ca/ She, like many other parents Young Drivers connects with, asked when do you know if your child is ready to drive and how do you choose who is the best person to drive with them? I’m paraphrasing here but that was pretty much the gist of these great questions.
Ok parents. Lets breathe a sigh of relief together and help you keep your sanity through this exciting and nerve-wracking time. Moms and dads everywhere can rejoice with these quick guidelines.
Here is the biggie: Is your child ready to drive? How do you know when the time is right?
First and most important sign is: Does your child even want to drive? Just because your child turns the magic age they are legally allowed to get their licence does not mean that the switch gets flipped on to make them want to take on this responsibility. Better not to push them into driving if they are not expressing interest. They should be present (and I mean mentally present here) when learning life saving skills in driver training.
If your child says they want to drive, is it for the right reasons? Do they really feel ready or are they buckling to peer pressure?
Being nervous is natural when it comes to driving but people should not be afraid of it. This may be a red flag someone is not quite ready to get behind the wheel.
Attitude and behaviour are a BIG deciding factor in determining your child’s readiness. Parents know their child the best and everyone is different. Ask yourself: Has my child shown commitment when starting something to see it through? Are they responsible towards tasks in life? Are they constantly missing practice and forgetting to do homework or are they keeping up with what they have to do? The answers to these questions will help answer if your child is ready for the new responsibility of driving.
Now that you have determined whether or not your son or daughter is ready for driving, here is the next big question. Are YOU ready for them to be driving? How do you determine who is the best person to sit in the passenger seat for practice? (rock, papers, scissors does NOT cut it)
First things first. Does the potential co-driver have enough driving experience of their own? This is why graduated licensing programs are in effect in most jurisdictions so that experience is paired with inexperience.
Just like attitude and behaviour are important in determining if your child is ready to drive, they also play a significant role in deciding who is best suited to be your child’s co-driver.
Ask yourself: Who is the most patient in the family? If you and your partner are equally patient and qualified then I would add: Who handles stress better? The person who is patient AND handles stress well has the winning combination. It is important to stay calm in the passenger seat (do not bring a paper bag to breathe into as much as it may be tempting). Avoid outwardly conveying you are anxious because this will only elevate the new driver’s anxieties as well.
The key for parents to remember is that your job is not to teach your child to drive, but to help your child become safe as they practice what their in-car instructor has taught them. Keep the driver focused on what they are doing, keep as calm as possible and enjoy the ride. You’ll both get there!